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The Art of Compromise In
The IDD Service Workplace
Table of Contents
What Compromise is NOT
Compromise is not selling out; neither is it to be viewed as the failing option. Unless we are God Almighty (all-knowing and all-powerful) then any attempts to remain uncompromising in all situations is probably a sign of extreme arrogance and is likely making you and everyone around you very miserable. Government shutdowns (here’s our blog on that topic) are almost always caused by a refusal of the political parties involved to compromise. These impasses result in nobody going anywhere fast.
So what is Compromise?
In general, a compromise is about two (or more) people in disagreement finding a mutually accessible resolution for their disagreement, often a kind of “middle ground” between two opposite ends of a spectrum. Many times with compromise there isn’t a need to insist on right or wrong but a focusing on achieving a common goal. Also there sometimes isn’t a clear weaker or stronger position because the ultimate goals and motivations of each group may be very different.
In today’s IDD service industry, (even amongst 100% family-owned businesses) it is almost impossible (and certainly not profitable) for an organization to be successfully run long term by one uncompromising individual. The complexities of dealing with state regulators, guardians/legally authorized representatives, staff, colleagues, third party vendors and clients means we have to compromise to survive.
This article borrows heavily from Larry Alton’s piece on compromise for inc.com. When used appropriately the following seven principles can help you make better compromises in the workplace:
#1. Knowing What's Worth Compromising On
Some things are easier to compromise on than others, but distortions in your thinking can affect you in multiple ways. For example, if you’re a prideful person, you may be unwilling to compromise on a relatively small matters. Or if you’re too eager to compromise, you may weaken or discard your own ethics. Your first step to success is being able to recognize what’s worth compromising on and what isn’t–and for that, you’ll need to look at dimensions of significance, relevance, and personal investment. There’s no one right answer for anything.
#2. See Compromise As A Strength, Not A Weakness
One of the biggest limiting factors in seeking compromises is the fact that so many people view compromises as a sign of weakness; whether they’re negotiating with another business or talking to a direct care staff. If you think of a discussion or debate as a battle, then a compromise is a way of yielding, even if only slightly. The thing is, discussions aren’t a battle. You’re two people on the same team, both trying to get the most value out of a situation. Compromising is a way of demonstrating your confidence in the fact that a situation can be worked out, and your commitment to actually doing so. Think of it as a strength.
#4. Be Transparent With Your Intentions
In compromises, it’s better if you’re frank and direct with your intentions. This, of course, requires that you are crystal clear on what it is that you want (and why it’s important). Rather than dancing around the subject, or trying to stealthily move someone from their position, be blunt about it; let them know you fundamentally disagree, but that you’re willing to meet them in the middle. This generally opens the discussion to a more meaningful level and proactively demonstrates that you’re sincere in your intentions.
Compromises resolve disputes easier, find solutions faster, and help people get along with
one another while finding the best possible paths forward for various challenges.
#4. Understand The Needs Of The Other Side
One of your best tools for success is acknowledging and understanding your opponent’s real needs (remember they may be buried underneath the surface). For example, your opponent may be arguing for fewer responsibilities when what they really need are responsibilities that are more in their wheelhouse. Look deeper, and you’ll be able to find more effective paths forward.
#5. Make Multiple Suggestions
When people have the freedom to make decisions, they’re generally happier. And when a person has two or more options instead of one, they’ll generally be more willing to move forward–not to mention being happier with the end result. If you want to offer an effective compromise, instead of suggesting just one option for meeting in the middle, suggest multiple options. Lay out multiple paths forward, and open yourself to other options too. This will make it easier for the two of you to find mutual ground on which both of you can agree.
#6. Escalate When Appropriate
Sometimes, your first offer will fall flat. Your counterpart may be unwilling to budge due to a higher level of personal investment, a dislike for the offer on the table, or superficial pride. In any case, further efforts for a compromise will only be effective if you escalate your offer, moving the “middle ground” somewhat closer to your counterpart’s relative position. This isn’t always effective, nor is it always desirable, so it’s up to you to carefully evaluate whether or not it’s worth this escalating step.
#7. Know That Not All Compromise Attempts Will Work
Finally, go into your potential compromise knowing that there’s a significant chance your efforts won’t work at all. Some people are fundamentally unwilling to compromise, and sometimes, there really isn’t a middle ground for two diametrically opposed positions. This is rare, as when two people work together to find new, creative solutions, there’s usually room for at least one potential path forward, but failed compromises are a reality you’ll need to prepare for. Don’t let it discourage you from trying again in the future.
Finally........
With these seven secrets to better compromises, you’ll be doing your part to make your workplace more efficient, more mutually accessible, and even more enjoyable. Not all of them are immediately intuitive, and some of them require work to perfect, but together, they can turn you into a master compromiser, and will earn you respect in the process.
